Dear Melanin Queen,
There has been a stigma about the black community as a whole choosing not to deal with their emotions and seek help. We have a history of taking our emotions and sweeping them under the rug. In fact, older generations would even say that going to therapy means we aren’t trying enough or that we have officially ‘gone crazy’.
Well, I am here to tell you to go to therapy. If you considered it and decided against it because your peers have convinced you to not go, I suggest you let go of those friends IMMEDIATILY. What is even worse is if you yourself have convinced your mind that you should not go. I am sure they love you and think you are great, but when it comes to your mental health, take care of it.
Still not convinced? Here are some reasons to go.
- Your future self and relationships will thank you.
Therapy is more than just talking about your past relationships and childhood, it is about finding practical solutions that you can apply to everyday life. Including handling your emotions during certain situations and handling conflict. Since I decided to go to therapy in January, I have seen progress in the way that I handle my emotions and current relationships. I even find myself being more open with my parents when something is bothering me or when I don’t agree on something. The relationship I have with them has gotten better because of it.
2. If finances are a barrier, don’t fret.
The great thing about the internet is that you can come across great resources. There are plenty of different of organizations that offer counseling services that are income based. I currently pay $15 a visit and even if my financial situation changes, they are willing to work with me. True therapist who care about you will work with you financially but honestly just want to help you.
3. There are therapista that look like you.
One of the reasons that most black women don’t go to therapy is because they have tried other therapists in the past that are of other races and it just did not work for them. I am not saying that these therapists are not qualified to help with your mental growth but it helps to talk to someone that is familiar with your culture. It’s kind of similar to the unspoken rule that we acknowledge other black people in a room– especially if the majority of the people in the room are white. I think having a therapist that you can relate to will help you find better solutions as a black women but also makes you comfortable talking about black issues that you don’t have to give a history lesson on.
You know when pastors give their three points before they start a sermon? Well, consider yourself prepared for when you want to talk about why you should go to therapy. I believe that these are good reasons and that you highly consider going.
Please know that you are radiant and drippin’ in melanin. Let’s make sure your outward appearance is just as good as your insides.
love a fellow queen who will cheer you on forever.